This One Was for the Groom

Every wedding I film is different. That might sound obvious—of course, every couple is unique, every love story its own. But what really makes a wedding stand out isn’t the location or the decorations or even the size of the event. It’s the people. The personalities. The little decisions couples make that reflect who they are, not who they think they’re supposed to be on their wedding day.

There was one wedding in particular that has stayed with me. Not because of where it was or how it looked, but because of one moment before the wedding even began.

The groom and I were talking a few days before the big day, and he said something that really stuck with me:
“You know, wedding videos are always for the bride. I’m just kind of... there.”

And he didn’t say it with resentment or bitterness—just a quiet kind of resignation, like he accepted that his role was just to stand in place and smile.

That didn’t sit right with me. So I looked at him and said, “Then let’s change that. Let’s make something for you, too.”

And that’s exactly what we did.

Before the ceremony, we carved out time just for him—and shot what ended up being the beginning of the wedding film. We headed out to a wide-open field, filmed under a big tree, and then jumped into an ATV and tore down an old dirt road like it was a chase scene from a movie. It was fun. It was loud. It was him.

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He got to be the action hero in his own story, and it brought this totally new energy to the wedding film. And the best part? His bride absolutely loved it. She cheered him on the whole time and later told me how happy she was that he had his own moment. It made the whole video feel more complete, more personal—more them.

And that’s the real point here: your wedding video doesn’t have to follow anyone else’s script. There are no rules. It can be serious, funny, cinematic, emotional, quirky, or a mix of everything. It should reflect you. Not just as a couple, but as individuals.

Weddings come with a lot of expectations—traditions, timelines, checklists. But sometimes the most meaningful moments happen when you break away from the expected and lean into what actually makes your story yours.

That groom reminded me of something really important: sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is create space for people to feel seen. Your wedding day isn’t just for one of you. It’s a shared story—and both voices matter.

So if you’re planning your wedding and thinking about the video, don’t just think of it as documentation. Think of it as storytelling. Don’t just hire someone to point a camera. Hire someone who listens, who gets to know you, and who’s willing to go off-road in an ATV to help bring your story to life.

Because when you make it personal—when you let go of what it’s “supposed” to look like and focus on what matters most—you don’t just get a video. You get a piece of your story that feels true.

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